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Forgiveness Offers Freedom of
Thought and Action.

Forgiveness Means Not Letting Past Pain Determine Present Or Future Actions.

Forgiveness Does NOT Mean Forget, Stuffing Our Feelings Or
Letting Others Hurt Us Again!

Forgiveness Provides Relief From Pain.

Holding on to resentments and grievances IS a decision to suffer, it’s allowing past pain to ruin present and future moments. This allows past pain to control us, our feelings and actions. That’s not the way to happiness and spiritual success!

Happy people don’t hold on to misery. They resolve to learn from bad experiences, gain from their pain and let them go. Unnecessary suffering is masochistic.

People Who Don’t Fight For Their Freedom And Rights Loose Them! Forgiveness does not mean “Door Mat.”

None of the great religious or spiritual leaders in history were whimps. They all took strong stands and fought for their beliefs. Habitually Happy are NOT Whimps! They just simply refuse to be controlled by past pain. They resolve to let pain go quickly.

They make good decisions based on accurate assessments of reality, worthwhile goals and positive intentions.

Forgiveness Offers Freedom From Pain And Angry Decisions. 

Forgiveness Does NOT Mean Forget!

Copyright 2007 Michele Moore.  All rights Reseved.  Contact Us for reprints.  See Happiness Habit for more happiness insights.

Some people enjoy being mean. Evil people enjoy causing hurt and harm, it gives them a sense of power, control and superiority.

They may hide your keys, snicker while you search for them and blame you for not being better organized. Benign? It costs you time and emotional well-being.

Empowered, evil tyrants like Hitler, Stalin and Pol Pot kill millions of people without regret.

They have no consciences, no guilt, no remorse or empathy, no care about right or wrong. They do whatever they please, their only concern is getting caught or being stopped.

Law enforcement and medical professionals call them psychopaths, sociopaths, antisocial. They are at least 4% of our population.

They are often very articulate, charming, attractive and likeable. This makes them very dangerous. They look and act normal but they have no morals, no concern for anyone but themselves.

They are adept at hiding their true feelings and evil intentions. They are criminals, con artists, psychopathic ceos, corporate bullys, petty tyrants.

Good people don’t believe people can be so evil and do such evil things and still seem so normal.

This is how and why happy, healthy people are repeatedly taken in and victimized by their psychopathic manipulations and deceptions.

Evil people look like fine, upstanding citizens. Church involvement can provide convenient covers for their criminal activities.

Happy, Healthy, Successful People Beware:

Psychopaths often target the best and the brightest and try to humiliate and subjugate people who are better than they are. They love to dominate, control and destroy people who outshine or out perform them. Why People Are Targeted

Their haughty delusions of grandeur are driven by deep seated and well earned fears of inferiority.

Protection from Evil Psychopaths:

1) Recognize there are very sick, evil people who appear normal, kind, caring and considerate. They have no empathy or concern for anyone but themselves. Sociopaths are sadistic. They get pleasure from causing pain, especially to good people.

2) Power, Control and Superiority are their needs. They want to hurt you and they don’t want to be exposed. They blame you for the evil they’re doing and they want you to take responsibility for it and blame yourself as well.

3) Humiliation and Subjugation are their goals. If they can make you mad, look crazy or bad, you’ve played right into their hands.

4) Emotional Independence - Choose your mood, attitude and actions based on what’s best for you. Don’t give them control of your thoughts, actions or feelings. Don’t give them the control and dominance they crave.

5) Protect Yourself Physically and Mentally - don’t let them depress, distress or endanger you. Don’t let their evil dominate your life.

6) Shine Brightly - Strength, Genuine Goodness and Spiritual Success Are Your Best Defenses!

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What makes for happy, successful lives and relationships? 

Friendship, Trust and Teamwork

There is no greater gift than to help a person achieve their goals. 

Good happy relationships help people achieve their goals and their dreams!

“But we’re so different!” is a frequent concern.  People who work, live or spend time together happily and successfully grow together over time.  We are enriched by differences and learn from them.

Key questions to ask…

• Are our goals the same?  Do we want to achieve the same things?  Do we want to travel to the same destinations in five, ten and twenty years?
• Is my life truly better with them or without them?
• Are our values the same?
• Are we compatible, do we enjoy spending time together?
• Do I have FUN with this person?  Do they make me laugh?

Do Your Homework Before Becoming Involved 

Spend time building friendship, trust and teamwork.  If you can’t do it early in a relationship, you probably won’t be able to do it later once your emotions are hooked.

There’s a big problem with allowing sexuality to drive relationships.  A person who is inappropriate but sexually attractive draws us into situations that are not good for us.  The relationship supplies sexual highs but none of the key components of a good, healthy, successful relationship.

Friendship, trust and teamwork carry relationships over long distances and through difficult times towards happiness, success and achieving our dreams.

Focus on Friendship, Trust and Teamwork for happy, spiritually successful relationships!

Copyright 2007 Michele Moore.  All rights Reseved.  Contact Us for reprints.  See Happiness Habit for more happiness insights.

Pain Is A Powerful Distractor That Robs Us of Pleasure   

Engaging In Unnecessary Pain is Masochistic 

Why do we tend to embrace and wallow in our pain?

Emotional and physical pain are powerful negative sources of energy that seize and hold our attention. It’s nature’s way of saying we need to stop what we’re doing to care for ourselves.

Emotional pain is especially powerful, destructive and distracting.  We can be energized by the pain and from repeating, reliving or wallowing in painful situations.

We are both energized and made miserable by emotional pain. That’s the problem… it’s a source of energy and misery at the same time.

Sources of energy are attractive… laughter, love, thrills, great music, exercise, elevating experiences, sexual attractions, triumphs and achievement.

Sadly, emotional pain that gives us jolts of energy are also attractive, but in a negative, misery making way.  By reliving and rehearing misery, we reinforce misery.

Recognize it for what it is, a jolt of energy from a bad source. Ask yourself,

“Is this positive or productive?”
“Is this helping me in some way?”
“Is this the best use of my time and attention?”

If not, detach and definitively decide to NOT to give it a moment more of your time, well-being or attention. Painful thoughts are robbing you of pleasant present oppportunities for no reason.

Detach and destract yourself from unnecessary misery, distress and despair. 

Resolve to direct your attention to positive, uplifting solutions, opportunities and achievements!

Copyright 2007, Michele Moore.  All Rights Reserved.  See Happiness Habit for more happiness resources.