Detach from Unnecessary Distress and Despair
Pain Is A Powerful Distractor That Robs Us of Pleasure
Engaging In Unnecessary Pain is Masochistic
Why do we tend to embrace and wallow in our pain?
Emotional and physical pain are powerful negative sources of energy that seize and hold our attention. It’s nature’s way of saying we need to stop what we’re doing to care for ourselves.
Emotional pain is especially powerful, destructive and distracting. We can be energized by the pain and from repeating, reliving or wallowing in painful situations.
We are both energized and made miserable by emotional pain. That’s the problem… it’s a source of energy and misery at the same time.
Sources of energy are attractive… laughter, love, thrills, great music, exercise, elevating experiences, sexual attractions, triumphs and achievement.
Sadly, emotional pain that gives us jolts of energy are also attractive, but in a negative, misery making way. By reliving and rehearing misery, we reinforce misery.
Recognize it for what it is, a jolt of energy from a bad source. Ask yourself,
“Is this positive or productive?”
“Is this helping me in some way?”
“Is this the best use of my time and attention?”
If not, detach and definitively decide to NOT to give it a moment more of your time, well-being or attention. Painful thoughts are robbing you of pleasant present oppportunities for no reason.
Detach and destract yourself from unnecessary misery, distress and despair.
Resolve to direct your attention to positive, uplifting solutions, opportunities and achievements!
Copyright 2007, Michele Moore. All Rights Reserved. See Happiness Habit for more happiness resources.
Apr 19th 2008 at 5:22 pm
Callie…
still, to leave unsaid the wrong thing at the tempting moment….