Don’t Beat Yourself UP!
You Have To Be At Your Best To Perform Your Best.
Tearing yourself down is distracting and detracts from your ability to do well. It is very counterproductive.
You’re spending all your time and attention focusing on what went wrong and burning it into memory with lots of negative energy.
No time or attention is spent identifying, learning and strengthening skills and strategies that will build future success and happiness.
Why do we do it?
When we are little, parents and authority figures punish us in order to protect us from the dangers of wrong doing.
On some level we learn the wrong lesson, that beating ourselves up is a way to improve performance so we do it to ourselves.
By focusing on where we are and what’s wrong we stay stuck. We’re rehearsing and reliving our errors .
Beating yourself up reinforces errors you want to avoid.
Remorse and Regret do not necessarily bring Reform.
By focusing on where we want to go and become, we can grow.
Channel all anger and anguish about errors and mistakes to fixing problems, identifying and practicing what you want to do differently in the future.
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