Disasters and deep disappointments are an inevitable part of life. Here are secrets to bouncing back quickly and powerfully:
Focus on Fixes – What can you do to correct the problem, ensure it doesn’t happen again, gain from your pain, learn, grow, strengthen your skills and insights to build happiness and future success?
Don’t Beat Yourself Up, Blame, Complain or Criticize! Focusing on where you are now and what’s wrong keeps you stuck in the problem and miserable. Focusing on what you want to do differently and where you want to go in the future helps you grow and achieve it.
We don’t feel better by blaming, beating ourselves up or by focusing on problems. Beating ourselves up reinforces errors we want to avoid. It focuses time and attention on what’s wrong, not on building new skills and strategies that bring happiness and future success.
We Bounce Back by embracing our goals, our Best Selves and by focusing on what we want to achieve and do differently and then working hard to attain it.
Turn Anguish Into Achievement – Turn anger, regret and anguish into positive actions that improve the situation and help you to be happy and more effective in the future.
Worrying about problems is very different from solving or resolving problems. Regret and remorse do not bring reform. Desire and Determination To Do Things Differently Bring Positive Change.
Ask yourself, Is being upset helping me to fix the problem or to be more effective in the future? How long do I want to be upset? How miserable do I want to be and for how long?
Rebounding Rapidly: Think about how will you feel when the problem is behind you, when you have successfully rebounded. Visualize yourself successfully recovered from the problem. Feel those powerful positive feelings, embrace and project them. Practice feeling and being in rebound mode until it becomes habit.
Our Best: We are truly at our best and able to perform our best when we are UP, confident, energized, focused and happy. Don’t tear yourself down, distract or distress yourself. Don’t detract from your ability to excel and do well.
Bad things happen but they don’t have to make you miserable.
See yourself at your best, feel those powerful, confident feelings and project them. They will become genuinely yours. More Bouncing Back
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Reminds me of that old song: “…pick yourself up, dust yourself off and start all over again.”
That works for me, most of the time. But I do notice occasionally that when I am really worn out from a long term challenge, my energy level for “bouncing back” is just not there. Sometimes I have to wait, catch a breath, whatever, before I can bounce back. The key is not to wait too long, or you end up wallowing in self-pity, or get into an idle groove, which can be hard to pull out of.
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This is a very inspiring post, Michele. In order to bring positive change into your life, you have to focus your attention on what you enjoy. Failures are part of our lives but these should not be the main focus of our existence. If we allow ourselves to be consumed by disappointment, we will find it hard to bounce back. It’s good to go through the whole spectrum of emotions but at one point, we have to pick up the pieces again and move on.