Disasters and deep disappointments are an inevitable part of life. Here are secrets to bouncing back quickly and powerfully:
Focus on Fixes – Ask yourself, what can you do to correct the problem, ensure it doesn’t happen again, gain from your pain, learn, grow, strengthen your skills and power to build happiness and future success?
Don’t Beat Yourself Up, Blame, Complain or Criticize! Focusing on where you are now and what’s wrong keeps you stuck in the problem and misery. Focusing on what you want to do differently and where you want to go in the future helps you to grow and achieve it.
We don’t feel better by blaming, beating ourselves up or by focusing on problems. Beating ourselves up reinforces errors we want to avoid. It focuses time and attention on what’s wrong, not on building new skills and strategies that bring happiness and future success.
We Bounce Back by embracing our goals, our Best Selves and by focusing on what we want to achieve and do differently and then working hard to attain it.
Turn Anguish Into Achievement – Turn anger, regret and anguish into positive actions that improve the situation and help you to be happy and more effective in the future.
Worrying about problems is very different from solving or resolving problems. Regret and remorse do not always cause reform. Desire and Determination To Do Things Differently Bring Positive Change.
Ask yourself, Is being upset helping me to fix the problem or to be more effective in the future? How long do I want to be upset? How miserable do I want to be and for how long?
Rebounding Rapidly: Think about how will you feel when the problem is behind you, when you have successfully rebounded. Visualize yourself successfully recovered from the problem. Feel those powerful positive feelings, embrace and project them. Practice feeling and being in rebound mode until it becomes habit.
We Can Rebound More Quickly By Focusing On How We Will Feel When We Have Rebounded From The Difficulty And Then Consciously Taking On Those Attitudes And Perspectives. Bad things happen but they don’t have to make you miserable for long.
Our Best: We are truly at our best and able to perform our best when we are UP, confident, energized, focused and happy. Don’t tear yourself down, distract or distress yourself. Don’t detract from your ability to excel and do well.
See Yourself At Your Best, Feel Those Powerful, Confident Feelings And Project Them. They Will Become Genuinely Yours. More Bouncing Back
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Hi Michele, Thank you for the wonderful post. So many people (including me!) battle against feelings of heaviness and fear. And the points you mention are great ways to counteract those negative feelings. I found another wonderful way is to practice some type of inward practice like meditation or contemplation. As a matter of fact someone recommended I read a book called “Wake Up! Your Life is Calling,” by Andy Feld. After I read it, I thanked that person, because the author really addressed the points you make and more (the whole meditation aspect) in such a personal and comprehensive way.
Thank you for listening,
Kim
My own way to bounce back quickly whenever I encounter low moments is just simple – that everything happens for a reason..and whatever that reason is..it can make me stronger.
Thanks for this post. This is indeed inspiring.
I like the works of Greg Cynaumon, Ph.D – Unlocking the Bible’s Secrets to Happiness’.
Thanks for the awesome information on happiness. All the words written on this site are so true and i think i can absorb all this information for my future reference. Its hard bouncing back to your usual state when depression or stress happens, but by reading this post i think i can avoid all that and just be happy. This post made me feel better and i’m going to show it to the people around me. This was truly inspiring. I will absolutely see myself at my best now. Thanks to people like you for helping others overcome struggles. I will most definitely feel more confident and protect my feeling as well as myself. You have really great stuff on here! And thanks once again for having posts like these. You have educated me and others as well. My life can transform for the better now. I will learn to let go and move on and enjoy life!