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We all get them from time to time, those dreadful, dismal, dragging, despondent feelings.
What causes the Dismal Downers and what can we do to defeat or deter them?
Photographs showing differences in brain activity when people are depressed – like this from the Mayo Clinic – may be familiar.
Reduced Brian Activity Is Associated With Depression. One of the keys to raising our spirits and defeating depression is to find ways to stimulate our brain activity.
Exercise – Many research studies show that regular rigorous exercise improves brain function and brightens people’s moods. This may be tied to improvements in the supply of blood flow to the brain.
Our brains represent about 2% of our body mass, but they consume about 25% of our body’s supply of oxygen. Brain function declines when brain blood flow declines. (Source: Massachusetts General Hospital “Mind, Mood & Memory” August, 2011)
Neural activity also stimulates blood flow to specific parts of the brain, but one’s heart and circulatory system must be strong enough to support the necessary increased flows.
Music – Many people also find music helps brighten their moods – the music stimulates their brains and their bodies into greater activity.
Stimulants – Other types of stimulants like alcohol, drugs or caffeine may produce the same effects but with negative consequences. They briefly raise blood pressure, alertness and mental activity but they also set us up for a reactive downer when the effects of the stimulants pass.
We can achieve many of the same things naturally without these negative consequences. This is why a brisk walk can do so much to brighten our mood and increase our mental alertness.
We can avoid overeating and dairy products and starches that make many people sleepy and slow.
We can choose to stimulate our own minds with lots of challenging, interesting thoughts. People who continually love to learn or acquire new skills or languages are found to retain their mental acuity into old age.
Habitually Happy people continually stimulate their minds with a constant stream of interesting, exciting, creative thoughts and mental activity. They think boredom is an inability to entertain ourselves when our environmental stimulation is low.
The Best Stimulation of All Is Happiness, Fun and a Good Time. Habitually Happy People Try To Have A Good Time All of The Time.
Why Not Try It, It’s A Great, Fun Way To Brighten Your Mood, Defeat The Dismal Downers and Sharpen Your Mind!
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Stuart Smalley - Saturday Night Live (Al Franken)
Saturday Night Live’s Stuart Smalley comes to mind whenever I hear the word Affirmations. Silly, nonsensical, comic.
Focus On What You Want To Achieve And The Steps You Must Take To Attain It is a key Happiness Habit.
We think it is critical to focus on your goals AND what you need to do to achieve them.
Repeating Positive affirmations over and over again, saying and pretending that you have already achieved your goals is delusional and counterproductive. This does not emphasize what you actually need to do to attain your goals.
Positive affirmations are very much part of our “The Secret” driven culture. They do everyone a serious disservice.
If you wander around pretending you already have achieved something you have not worked for, it’s easy to get lost in lies.
Here’s a paraphrased example of affirmations from a self help book I recently saw:
- There are two things you must know to reach a goal. First it must be clearly identified and quantified. Second, goals should be written and affirmed as if they already existed.
- To affirm something, you write and / or state it repeatedly, sincerely believing it has already been accomplished.
- Your affirmation might sound something like this: “I have sold five units as of January 30, 2011. Gross income from these sales is $500,000 and net profit is $80,000. I am respected and lead my field in sales production.”
- By expressing your desired outcome in the present tense, you condition your subconscious mind to accept it as fact. This method is taught by most success motivators.
- Write your affirmations several times each morning and evening. Post them on your bathroom mirror, refrigerator, your computer or car dashboard. Refer to them often and repeat them out loud. Believe them!
- By planting this seed of positive expectancy you condition yourself to move toward your goal swiftly and unswervingly.
Does this sound familiar? No where does it describe what you actually must do, or do differently to achieve these goals!
Wishing doesn’t make things real. Repeating affirmations over and over again detaches you from reality. If you truly believe it when you have not achieved it, it is delusional.
So focus on what you what to achieve and the steps you must take to attain it.
Positive affirmations do help you to step into the right mind set to perform and present yourself at your best. A successful salesman I know always says: “Cool, confident, successful and savvy” to himself before he walks into any room to remind himself of how he wants to think of himself and what we wants to project.
This helps him connect with a clear image of the person he wants to be – but it is very different from pretending and telling himself he has already done something he hasn’t worked to attain.
Use affirmations to help you to connect with your best self and then:
Focus On What You Want To Achieve And The Steps You Must Take To Attain It to achieve your dreams.
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How are your New Year’s Resolutions doing? Are you happy with your progress?
Eager excitement and anticipation blaze in our New Year’s celebrations.
We are determined to make this year much better than the last which just gratefully passed.
Now, barely several weeks into the New Year, many of us feel the Gnawing Nags of Negativity signaling New Years Resolution Remorse.
We have not done and are not doing all of the things we were so enthusiastically determined to do.
The power of habits, inertia and the demands of life seem to be dragging us back into the same ruts we wanted to escape. So what do we do?
Here are a few key Happiness Habits to help you redouble your determination and desire to achieve your New Year’s goals and aspirations:
Don’t Beat Yourself Up – Criticizing and castigating yourself is damaging, demoralizing and very counterproductive. We do it because as children, adults punished us in efforts to improve our behavior, so we do it to ourselves thinking it will make us better. It doesn’t, it defeats us.
Expect Lapses and Plan for Them – Many successful personal development programs grow in fits and starts with great leaps forward alternating with relapses backwards. The key is to learn how to handle your relapses well.
Failure Is NOT Falling Down, It’s Staying Down – Giving up because you made a goof or series of goofs is a grievous condemnation and limitation on your future performance. Successful people make mistakes, they are also determined not be defeated by them.
Misery Is Meant To Make Us Move – Those Gnawing Nags of Remorse and Negativity are a powerful, helpful signs you are slipping back into patterns and behaviors you resolved to avoid. Say “Thank you Resolution Remorse, you are reminding me and reinforcing my resolve to achieve my goals.”
Redouble Your Determination, Drive and Desire – Your dreams haven’t changed, you are just disappointed in your recent actions to attain them. This doesn’t mean you can’t do it. Reinforce your resolve to work hard to achieve your goals.
Drive Discipline With Desire – Don’t view discipline as deprivation, see discipline as steps to dream realization. The secret to successful discipline is to always desire something positive more than whatever tempts you. Fire up and redouble your desire to achieve your goals.
See Small, Very Specific Steps To Success – Start small, construct your process as a series of small, very specific steps that lead to dream fulfillment. Continually celebrating successful completion of each step sets you up for a series of successes.
Lapses Mean You Have To Work Even Harder – Make up for your mistakes and work hard to catch up and stay on track.
Continually Recall And Reinforce Your Resolve – Remember and relive the feelings that lead to your resolution. Continually reinforce your desire and determination, rekindle your resolve to achieve your dream.
Happy New Year from Michele Moore and the Happiness Habit Team!
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Holidays can be extraordinarily happy even when you are experiencing hard times. Here’s how to enjoy the holidays when you are hurting.
Be Honest About Where You Are, Decide To Be Deliberately Different – Consciously deciding to change and do things differently helps cut painful connections with the past. Different can be very delightful, deliberately deciding to do things differently can be very liberating.
Joy Has NO Price Tag – Our greatest joys don’t come from gifts of material things. The people, memories, experiences and magic moments that bring us the most joy are not tangible items. Recall sources of joy in the past and recreate them in new and different ways.
Create a Colonial Christmas – imagine what Christmas was like 250 years ago for the first settlers of our country. Create a 1760’s Christmas – simple, joyous, special. Decorate using free, natural items: pine cones, evergreen limbs, pop corn strings.
Cut simple decorative shapes from colored paper or old magazines. Enjoy candles with mirrors. Look for bonfires if you don’t have a fireplace.
Consider Exchanging Care Coupons – Create and decorate coupons for the intangible gifts your loved ones will value the most:
- This coupon is good for one hour of help with anything you ask – I promise to work hard happily, enthusiastically and energetically.
- This coupon is good for one hour of undivided, uninterrupted time together doing exactly what you want to do. I promise to give my full, undivided, sincere, enthusiastic attention and appreciation to you and whatever you decide to do.
Create a Another Country’s Non Commercial, Cultural Christmas – What Christmas would be like if you were living in a Hindu, Muslim or Buddhist country? Or in a simple village in Latin America? Mongolia? Ethiopia? Learn about other cultures, recreate one for a memorable, enjoyable holiday.
Emphasize Enjoyable Experiences – Look for experiences that bring happiness and joy in the holiday season.
End Extravagant Expectations – Money does not buy a joyful holiday.
See Stabs Of Self Pity As An SOS – Immediately redirect your time, energy and attention toward thoughts, actions, objectives and activities that will help you to build happiness and spiritual success.
Enjoy Natural Beauty – Take walks. Savor, enjoy and appreciate the beauty around you: the special smells, the fresh air on your face, the spectacular sunsets you were always too busy to watch.
Assess Reality Accurately, Don’t Get Carried Away – Don’t diminish holiday joy by over spending, over eating or over compensating for any difficulties, it’s not necessary.
Strangers Can Offer Security And Safety – Family relationships and even long standing friendships can suddenly turn toxic over the holidays. New or different people change holiday dynamics and interactions. Changing the place, time and theme of holiday celebrations can help break bad ruts.
Begin Your New Year’s Resolutions Early – Whatever they are, begin now. Eat and drink healthily. Avoid excesses, too much rich food, alcohol. Too many sweets and starches can drive you nuts. Jump start your diet, exercise or personal development programs. Exercise aggressively. Eat wisely.
Continually Sparkle, Radiate and Set A Positive, Enthusiastic Holiday Tone – Consciously deciding to continually sparkle and radiate joy raises your spirits and the spirits of the people around you. Use holidays as an excuse to smile, speak and greet strangers warmly. Extend a genuine holiday welcome to everyone you meet.
Be Adventuresome And Creative – Decide to do things you haven’t done before, or decide to do them in very different ways.
There are lots of wonderful new ways to enjoy the holidays, find them, explore and enjoy them.
Look For Free Festive Activities With New People In New Places – Volunteering to help others often comes with free food and fun holiday festivities. Find free concerts, free special holiday events and religious activities. Learn about different cultures or religious groups. Visit a friend, relative or shut in who will relish your company.
Spend time really exploring, enjoying and savoring the holiday season and holiday decorations. Do things you were always too busy to do in the past. Make this holiday wonderfully different and it won’t be deficient.
Creativity Is A Key To Happiness In Ordinary Times, It Is Especially Important In Hard Times. Find Creative New Ways To Enjoy Your Holiday And Bring Joy To Others!
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Stabs of self pity strike suddenly from time to time.
All we see are the wrongs, the inequities and the dreadful damage our difficulties have caused us.
A overwhelming surge of painful, debilitating self pity begins to set in.
Don’t let self pity overwhelm or over power you.
Stop Self Pity Before It Grows And Deepens
Don’t give those negative, debilitating thoughts and feelings any time and attention, all they will do is bring you down. They are non productive, unnecessary and dangerous. Self pity sabotages happiness and brings dreadful, dismal, downward spirals of despair.
Revolt and Rebel Against Self Pity
Refuse To Give Those Painful Thoughts Your Time And Attention
Self Pity SOS – Let self pity’s first twinges serve as an SOS to immediately redirect your thoughts, actions, energy and attention toward positive goals, activities and objectives that will help you to be happy and spiritually successful.
Don’t Let Self Pity Down Your Spirits
Don’t Give Self Pity Your Time or Attention
Negative judgments power all fear, emotional pain, anxiety and despair. Self pity is a super charged negative judgment.
The normal response is to ask, can these negative judgments help me in some way? If the answer is YES, turn the negative judgments into a series of positive action items and constructive steps that build happiness and spiritual success.
“I’m going to be late!” is an anxiety producing negative judgment that can help you if you turn it into a series of positive actions items: I will stop what I am doing, watch the clock carefully, collect my things and get ready to walk out the door at least three minutes early.
If the answer is NO, discard the negative judgments and refocus your time and attention on activities that will help you achieve your goals, be happy and spiritually successful. The negative judgments are making you miserable for no reason.
Stabs of self pity signal an immediate jump to this NO response. Self pity rarely contains any positive action items that can help you to triumph and be happy. Feeling sorry for yourself is debilitating, dismal and no fun. Stop it before it grows and deepens.
When Stabs Of Self Pity Strike, Immediate Redirect Your Thoughts And Attention Toward Positive, Exciting, Encouraging Thoughts, Actions And Activities That Will Help You Succeed And Be Happy.
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When you are feeling overwhelmed and over powered by all the things you have to do, how can you stay sane, focused, balanced, confident, effective and happy?
Break Important Tasks Down Into Small, Specific Steps or Sections That Are Easy To Visualize And Achieve During A Short, Definite Period of Time.
Work As Hard As You Can, Complete That Step. Stop And Celebrate Success.
Assess your progress in terms of your larger goals and the time you have to attain them. Decide what to do next and how long you will spend on it.
Work as hard as you can, complete that step, stop, celebrate success, assess your progress and plan your next steps.
Great Achievements Are Built Through A Series of Very Small, Specific, Successful Steps.
If You Still Feel Overwhelmed, Break The Step Down Into Even Smaller, Shorter, Easy To Visualize And Achieve Steps or Actions.
Working Hard Is Energizing And Empowering – It Incites A Delight And Drive To Get Things Done. Urgency creates energy, determination, drive, decisiveness and focus. See work as an exciting series of successful achievements leading to valued goals, not a dreadful burden.
If You Can’t Face Getting Up And Moving – Take a couple of long, slow deep breaths. With each deep breath, feel energy coming into your body and radiating outward with each exhale. Smile confidently. Swing your legs around, take another deep, energizing breath, stand up confidently and smile.
Ask yourself, What Are You Going To Explore, Enjoy & Experience? What Are You Going To Appreciate & Achieve? What Are You Going To Accomplish So You Feel Good At The End Of The Day?
Priorities Are Key. Identify What Is Truly Most Important And Work On That Task. Don’t get distracted by busy work that allows you to avoid addressing important goals.
Planning Previews Success – Think carefully about what you want to achieve and the time and resources you have to accomplish it. Planning is a preview of your success.
Make Planning Previews Part Of Your Project’s Process.
Avoid The Fault Finding Feel Goods, Turn Negative Judgments Into Positive Actions and Avoid All UnNecessary, NonProductive Negativity.
You Will Feel Much Better And More Confident.
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Disasters and deep disappointments are an inevitable part of life. Here are secrets to bouncing back quickly and powerfully:
Focus on Fixes – Ask yourself, what can you do to correct the problem, ensure it doesn’t happen again, gain from your pain, learn, grow, strengthen your skills and power to build happiness and future success?
Don’t Beat Yourself Up, Blame, Complain or Criticize! Focusing on where you are now and what’s wrong keeps you stuck in the problem and misery. Focusing on what you want to do differently and where you want to go in the future helps you to grow and achieve it.
We don’t feel better by blaming, beating ourselves up or by focusing on problems. Beating ourselves up reinforces errors we want to avoid. It focuses time and attention on what’s wrong, not on building new skills and strategies that bring happiness and future success.
We Bounce Back by embracing our goals, our Best Selves and by focusing on what we want to achieve and do differently and then working hard to attain it.
Turn Anguish Into Achievement – Turn anger, regret and anguish into positive actions that improve the situation and help you to be happy and more effective in the future.
Worrying about problems is very different from solving or resolving problems. Regret and remorse do not always cause reform. Desire and Determination To Do Things Differently Bring Positive Change.
Ask yourself, Is being upset helping me to fix the problem or to be more effective in the future? How long do I want to be upset? How miserable do I want to be and for how long?
Rebounding Rapidly: Think about how will you feel when the problem is behind you, when you have successfully rebounded. Visualize yourself successfully recovered from the problem. Feel those powerful positive feelings, embrace and project them. Practice feeling and being in rebound mode until it becomes habit.
We Can Rebound More Quickly By Focusing On How We Will Feel When We Have Rebounded From The Difficulty And Then Consciously Taking On Those Attitudes And Perspectives. Bad things happen but they don’t have to make you miserable for long.
Our Best: We are truly at our best and able to perform our best when we are UP, confident, energized, focused and happy. Don’t tear yourself down, distract or distress yourself. Don’t detract from your ability to excel and do well.
See Yourself At Your Best, Feel Those Powerful, Confident Feelings And Project Them. They Will Become Genuinely Yours. More Bouncing Back
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Criticism And Control Occur So Frequently Together They Are Practically Synonymous.
Criticism Is Almost Always A Power Play.
People criticize to try to assert their superiority, power and to gain control of people, situations and interactions.
Critics assert control by planting doubts and disparaging or damaging ideas in people’s minds. They may or may not be factually correct or beneficial.
Criticism Is Corrosive.
Criticism leaves people deflated, demoralized, confused and uncertain about what they should do. That’s often the critic’s intent. Critics like to leave people feeling badly and powerless, that’s how they exert power and control.
If you can get a person to doubt themselves, their ideas or their abilities, it’s easier to control them, dominate them or at least get them to defer to your desires.
Doubt is often all you need to dominate and dissuade others from differing with you.
Criticism Is Counterproductive.
Criticism focuses on what’s bad, wrong or unattractive.
Calling something is bad does not describe what is good. Saying something is wrong does not express what is right or desirable. Describing what you don’t want does not not communicate what you do want.
Criticism only helps to the extent it expresses what to avoid. Criticism does NOT present clear descriptions of successful solutions, strategies or what you can do to improve.
Criticism Is Often A Deliberate Distraction – Critics criticize to derail other people’s success. Deflecting or dealing with criticism takes time, energy, attention and resources from positive, important activities. It’s easy to find yourself worrying about what critics say is wrong rather than focusing on what is truly important to you.
Focus On What You Want To Achieve, Articulate Benefits.
Habitually Happy people focus on what they want to achieve. They can describe why it is desirable, beneficial or attractive. Clear goals help define the steps to attain them.
They spend just enough time with wrongs so they can rapidly recognize and reject bad things. They then redirect their attention, energy and enthusiasm to positive activities that help them build happiness and spiritual success.
Focusing on why they are working and striving for their goals reinforces their desire and drive to achieve them.
Recognize Criticism for What It Usually Is – A Corrosive, Counterproductive Power Play.
Treat criticism like any other Negative Judgment: Ask can it help me in some way? If YES, turn those negative judgments into positive action items. If NO, don’t give critics your time, attention or concern.
Focus On What You Want To Achieve.
Enjoy Your Progress And Eventual Success.
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We all know a few special people who always seem to be truly UP, energized and happy. They light up a room and our lives with their presence.
They seem to be having a good time all of the time and continually radiate genuine joy.
They are very loving people. They love life, they love what they do and they love the people around them, they love themselves.
They live without prejudices and embrace the entire world eagerly.
They have high integrity. We trust, admire and respect them.
They are good decision makers and leaders.
They are high achievers who love creative challenges.
They always enthusiastically try to do their best, be their best and encourage others to be their best too.
They refuse to let difficulties or problems distress or bother them.
When they are down, it never seems to last for long.
Enthusiasm, Energy, Achievement, Integrity, Happiness and Joy Characterize Their Lives.
You know some of these special people. They are not the most prominent or powerful people we know but they certainly are the happiest. We may wish we knew how to be more like them.
Happiness Habit interviewed and studied Habitually Happy, genuinely joyous people from all different walks of life and life situations. We identified the key Values, Beliefs, Habits, Ideals and Boundaries characteristic of happy thought. We call these special qualities Happiness Habits.
If you choose to adopt and practice Happiness Habits, you too will become happy or happier despite what is happening to you and around you.
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Wishing you great happiness and spiritual success,
Michele Moore and the Happiness Habit® Team
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Over a period of several years, Happiness Habit interviewed and studied habitually happy, genuinely joyous people from many different walks of life and personal situations.
We studied and interviewed people who were cheerfully facing terminal illnesses, job losses and major life challenges.
We intentionally omitted people who seemed happy primarily because of success or good things happening to them, what we term “situational happiness”.
We wanted to answer the question, “What can we do to be happier?” given who we are and the challenges we face.
Our goal was to identify and articulate the key values, beliefs, ideals, habits and boundaries that lead to happiness and spiritual success and explain why they work so well.
We call these key qualities Happiness Habits.
Experience has shown that when people consciously choose to adopt and practice Happiness Habits they become happy or happier despite what is happening to them or around them.
Our mission is to share these key happiness skills summarized in simple statements what we call Coaching Credos that are easy to recall and apply.
If Happiness Habit® concepts are:
1) Consistent with what most people know and believe to be true about happiness. You decide.
2) Consistent with the best current scientific and academic research. They are.
3) Effective, actually help people live happier more spiritually successful lives. You decide.
Then the validity of our approach is proven.
what do you have to loose? Why not give it a try?
Explore and enjoy our Happiness Habit websites and decide for yourself!
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Do You Want To Be Cool Like Barack Obama?
A Key Happiness Habit is:
Don’t hand control of your thoughts, actions or feelings over to outside forces or people who try to hurt or harass you.
Don’t Give Them Emotional Control Over You.
Decide How You Are Going To Think, Act and Feel.
Choose Your Mood and Your Attitude.
Emotional Independence, Freedom and Balance are key Happiness Habits.
This does NOT mean that you don’t get angry or that you don’t decide to take decisive corrective action when necessary.
It does mean you weigh options carefully, decide when and how you will act and that you don’t just automatically react in anger.
Choose the timing, the place and substance of your response carefully.
We all have an Optimal Best Self – a sweet spot or optimal zone where we feel our best, do our best and perform our best. Habitually Happy people try to maintain their optimal Best Self State all of the time. Getting angry and irrational is not part of their process.
Much has been written about Barack Obama’s Cool calm demeanor. His actions and reactions epitomize Emotional Independence. He decides how he will act, react and project himself. He doesn’t let outside forces control his emotions easily.
If you let another person make you angry, you’re giving them control of your thoughts, actions, feelings and your well-being. Don’t do it!
Don’t Help Them Hurt You.
The next time someone tries to hook you into an angry response, simply think, “I’m not giving you control.” It’s that easy.
This does not mean stuffing your feelings or suppressing your emotions. It means not giving them control over you, your attention or your emotions.
Channel Anger Into Activism And Actions That Achieve Positive Goals.
Choose Emotional Independence and Spiritual Freedom. It’s that easy. Decide how you’re going to act, don’t simply react to them. Take command and lead interactions in the direction you want to go. Make this a Happiness Habit.
It’s a great way to stay cool and happy!
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We’re often asked how trying to do your best brings happiness…
Habitually Happy People Continually Try To Do Their Best, Feel Their Best, Be Their Best All Of The Time. Their Best keeps getting better.
It’s a direct application of The First Law of Happiness: Our Focus Determines Our Feelings. When we focus our attention on things we find bad, we feel sad, angry or anxious.
When We Think About Good Things We Feel Elevated, Excited, Energized. Our Focus Of Attention Determines Our Feelings.
If you’ve ever had a mediocre day when you just didn’t feel like putting forth a good effort and didn’t, you know the truth of this phrase.
When we don’t bother to try to do a good job and get only mediocre results, we feel pretty mediocre too.
Habitually Happy people continually energize themselves with thoughts of themselves doing their best at whatever it is they are doing.
Clear Goals Help Define The Steps To Attain Them.
Because they are thinking about doing well, they are able to do well and they feel well. Thinking about doing YOUR best provides a path to continually improve your performance.
The Key Word Here Is YOUR Best, Not Someone Else’s Best.
Learn all you can from other people’s superb performances and then try to do YOUR best. It’s the best you can realistically do.
Comparisons to superior star performers are often purposeless and painful for no reason. What good does it do to judge in comparison with the best unless you pull positive actions items for personal improvement from the process?
Powerful positive images of what you want to achieve are inspiring and invigorating. Working hard to achieve a worthwhile goal is satisfying and stimulating.
When you know you have done YOUR best you can let go of results on some level knowing you can do no more.
Continually Trying To Do YOUR Best Is A Key To Happiness.
Try To Do YOUR Best, Be Your Best, Feel Your Best All Of The Time.
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Truth, Honesty And Integrity Are Essential To Happiness – A clear conscience and living by good values are absolute prerequisites to a happy life.
The Universe respects, admires and trusts people of high integrity who always try to do the right and best thing.
You can’t be happy when you continually feel guilty or worried about wrong doing and about being found out, exposed and punished.
Deceit and Dishonesty Destroy Happiness
To be happy, you need to feel good about who you are and what you do.
Continually trying to do your best, feel your best and be your best helps build happiness.
More importantly…
We Can’t Love People We Don’t Trust
Deceit and dishonesty destroy relationships. We need The Truth to make good decisions. Dishonest, deceitful people lead us to poor decisions because they distort or disguise the Truth for their own gain.
Beware of Sociopaths & Psychopaths:
A surprisingly large percentage of the population has no conscience, no remorse, no compassion, no empathy for others.
Psychologists and Law Enforcement professionals call these people Sociopaths and Psychopaths. The primary constraint on a psychopath’s or sociopath’s behavior is concern about being found out, exposed and punished.
They have no conscience, no remorse or guilt to restrain or contain their misbehavior.
Psychopaths and Sociopaths also exhibit what psychologists term “a flat affect.” Their lack of conscience, concern and remorse is accompanied by an inability to bond and feel love, understanding and empathy for others. Constant thrill seeking often fills the void of love in their lives.
When Love Is Limited Or Lacking There Is No Happiness.
Happy people who embrace high values need to be very wary of these people. Psychopaths and Sociopaths are often very charming, charismatic and deceptive.
It’s hard to believe that such seemingly warm, wonderful people can be so evil and malevolent. “We see the world as we are, not as it is” wrote Anais Nin.
Be Loving And Be Careful!
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The Happiest People In The World Are The Most Loving People. They are very kind, caring, compassionate and generous.
To be happy, love extensively and expansively. Love what you do, love the people around you, love your work and love yourself.
Wherever love is limited or lacking, there is no happiness.
Many people chase after success thinking it will bring them happiness but there are lots of very successful people who are Not especially happy.
Happiness and Success Are Two Very Different Things.
The best way to excel and do well at anything is to cultivate a love for what you are doing.
The Best Way To Be Happy Is To Love Extensively, Expansively.
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Exciting New Changes Are Coming With The New Year…
Happiness·Hope·Change – HappinessHopeChange.com – Celebrating our January 20th Inauguration and the messages and lessons it carries
– and – Resolve To Be Happy – ResolveToBeHappy.com – sharing specific steps to turn Happiness Resolutions into powerfully effective Happiness Solutions
have been added to the HappinessHabit.com website.
During 2009 we’ll continue to develop specific Happiness subject web sites targeted to address specific needs, uses and desires.
As you know, HappinessBlog.com has evolved and changed significantly through the years.
Our first postings in 2005 described basic Happiness Habits and the important tenets for living a happy, spiritually successful life.
Having covered Happiness Habits both here and in other postings through the years, HappinessBlog.com began to emphasize current Happiness news, research and events.
New readers may not want to dig back several years to read our initial happiness postings. We’ll leave them in place in their original form to preserve the links.
We will also rewrite and refocus many of our materials in new and exciting ways during 2009 to focus on specific needs and uses.
Our more contentious commentary regarding current Happiness research and coverage will be migrated to a separate site with a new name.
HappinessBlog.com will return to it’s powerfully positive theme and tone. We’ll try to keep abreast of news items supported by permanent links to happiness materials that could be of interest and help to large groups of people.
We hope you will enjoy the new look, tone and approach for HappinessBlog.com during the coming year!
Very best New Year’s wishes,
Michele Moore and the
Happiness Habit Team
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“Happiness, even in hard times, it turns out the feeling IS contagious” begins NBC’s report on Harvard’s study of 4,739 people over 20 years researching “how social networks, siblings, friends and neighbors are affected by the happiness of others.”
“Happiness isn’t a solitary experience, it’s dependent on others” the study asserts.
Is it surprising that researchers who studied the effects of social networks on happiness would find that social interactions are necessary for happiness? They even examined geographic variables…
“Close physical proximity is essential for happiness to spread,” the study reports. “A happy friend who lives within a half mile makes you 42% more likely to be happy yourself. If that same friend lives two miles away, the impact drops to 22%. Happy siblings make you 14% more likely to be happy, but only if they live within a mile.”
Egad! What are we meant to do to be happy? Move closer to happy friends and siblings if we have them? What if they’re not close by or if they suddenly face tragedy and become unhappy?
How does this help us find Happiness In Hard Times? Does the study provide useful insights that help the world be happier during difficult times? Did they reduce their analysis to ridiculous decimals?
NBS’c clips show people looking outside of themselves for happiness as if happiness is not a product of our own internal orientation and decisions.
“What makes me happy is… a good meal, knowing my job is in good shape, a yo yo?”
What about people facing difficult times who have none of these external delights, are they doomed to despair and depression? What can we do to bring greater joy to difficult situations?
We love NBC and MSNBC. Their integrity and intellectual sophistication is often lacking in the other networks. On occasion, NBC goes to amusing lengths to protect the public from themselves.
Watch Jon Stewart’s hilarious report on NBC’s Macy’s Thanksgiving parade coverage. A good laugh is a great way to bring happiness into your life.
See Happiness In Hard Times for Happiness Habit’s hints about how to be happy during difficult times.
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Positive Psychology is very popular in American academia today.
Positive psychologists believe we can all be happy or happier by being more positive.
They suggest we substitute more positive judgments for negative ones, spend time on Gratitude Lists and journal good things that happen in our lives.
They believe the more time we spend focusing on positives over negatives, the happier we will be.
They preach the Gospel of Learned Optimism, that we can learn to be more optimistic in our assessments of life and be happier.
The Positive Psychology Happiness Formula is:
Positive Judgments => Produce Happiness
Negative Judgments => Mean Misery
Therefore More Positive Judgments Mean More Happiness
While there is some truth to this statement (it is a variant of the First Law of Happiness – Our Focus Determines Our Feelings) they overlook a number of key points:
The first is optimism can cause us to overlook or ignore important danger signals and warning signs that help us thrive and survive. We are told we just need to be more positive, to see more benefits and fewer threats. This can be dangerous.
The Happiness Habit model is very different. Habitually Happy people assess reality very accurately and take decisive and often very creative action. Once they are confident they have made good decisions, they put the full force of positive expectations behind their plans and drive to excel and do well.
They know the dangers of excessive optimism and react accordingly.
More importantly, Habitually Happy people don’t ignore misery. They know misery has messages and meaning.
Misery Is Meant To Make Us Move
Misery is meant to make us move and take action – it is a signal something needs to change or is changing.
Misery means we need to change what we are doing, how we think, how we feel or all perhaps all three. If our world is changing, we need to change to adapt, adjust and end our misery.
Stuffing, ignoring or replacing negative signals with learned optimism is not a universal route to happiness and spiritual success.
When our heart, gut, soul and being are screaming something is wrong, it’s not wise to try to pretend everything is fine.
Examine those negative feelings, understand what they are saying and react accordingly. Are threats real or merely effects of past conditioning, environment and experience? Can we turn those negatives into positives?
Assess Reality Accurately. Explore and Appreciate What Negative Feelings Are Trying to Say.
Be Decisive, Make Effective Decisions. Put The Full Force of Positive Expectations Behind All Your Plans.
Use a Drive To Excel and Do Well to Propel You to Happiness and Spiritual Success.
Try To Enjoy and Make The Most of Each and Every Moment.
Be Realistic, Not Blind.
See HappinessHabit.com for more information about happiness and spiritual success.
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A Drive to Do Well and Excel Are Keys to both Happiness and Greatness!
Habitually happy people want to do their best, feel their best, be their best all the time.
They also continually and creatively look for ways to make their best even better.
This is the same mindset described as the keys to Greatness by Fortune Magazine.
The article discusses recent studies of people who have excelled in their sport or profession, examining what it takes to be great.
The good news is… greatness in a skill, sport or profession does not come from natural talents or gifts. Greatness is open to any and all of us.
Greatness comes from rugged, rigorous hard work and a determined drive and desire to continually improve our skills.
The same principles hold true for happiness. By continually and creatively finding ways to live more happily and successfully, we can grow our happiness and spiritual success.
For more insights and happiness resources see HappinessHabit.com
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Valentine’s Day Is a Reminder to Love… Ourselves and Others, Every day.
If you’re in a relationship… it’s a special, exciting day! Think of all the wonderful, kind, loving things you’ll do – choose one and decide to do it every day from now on.
Put a little Valentine’s Day in every day.
Maybe it’s beginning each day with a smile, a hug and an “I love you.” Or replacing one indifferent or distant habit with love and affection. Welcome them at the door or ask about their day and really listen.
One simple, small thing to add affection and care all year round.
Single, On Your Own?
Give yourself big hugs all day and enjoy the warmth of each loving, happy hug. Feel love in your heart, make a special effort to radiate it to everyone around you.
Enjoy, appreciate and delight in who you are and what you do. Resolve to do this at least once a day, every day from now on.
Enjoy and relish your own company, plan to take yourself out for a nice meal another, quieter day. Enjoy a solo adventure.
There’s a marvelous freedom and power in being happy on your own, in creating and carrying your own happiness within you where ever you go.
Reject myths saying we need a “relationship” to make us happy and complete, messages that make singles feel defective, needy and dependent. They say we should look to others for happiness when its true source lies within ourselves.
It’s the loving relationships and loving communities we create around us daily that bring expansive, enduring joy. They can easily be extensive, everywhere.
We can’t be happy in a “relationship” when we are not happy on our own. Resolve to love yourself and be happy on your own, right now.
For Everyone…
Make a special effort to radiate love and joy to everyone around you. Smile, seek out someone who is lonely and despondent, give them a special hug, remind them they are loved.
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The Best Way to Excel and Do Well At Anything
Is To Cultivate A Love For It
.
Love And Exuberant Zeal Propel
Happiness and Success.
People who are at the top of their profession or calling truly love what they do and devote their entire life, their soul, their being to it.
They are determined to be the best. Lasting, remarkable success doesn’t happen by accident or with sloppiness.
Star performers have decided to be different in some way, to add a new artistry, invention, dimension, perspective or approach to their endeavors.
They are not just the same as everyone else and better. They are different, creative, distinctive.
Preeminence has its perils. A top coach complained success had made her hard because of the back biting, infighting and sabotage within her sport. Jealous, envious people can be very hateful.
Your colleagues are competitors. You can’t count on affirmation, support or admiration from people you consistently beat. Hurt causes hardness, sometimes even hatred.
Protect yourself from pain and be happy with your success without becoming hard. Reposition your attitudes, view bad antics as sick, dysfunctional and pathetic. Feel sorry for them.
Envy and Jealousy Are Marks of Losers!
Embrace the love you feel for your sport, endeavor or profession. You are the best because you have worked harder and added more than the others.
Truly successful people look at great performers, admire them, support them, emulate them and try to learn all they can from them. Losers discredit, devalue or subvert winner’s successes.
There’s a reason why winners rise to the top while losers stay stuck below them. Backbiting, infighting and subversion become more important than love of excellence and the endeavor.
There’s a huge difference between striving to deliver an exceptional performance and wanting to beat someone. Winners love to embrace the very best, losers often try to hurt. Expect people you beat to be unhappy.
Don’t look for affirmation or admiration from competitors. It will come from people who appreciate what you do, understand how hard you work and have hearts as strong and as good as yours.
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Empathy Is Essential To Happiness
Empathy means we can sympathize and identify with other people’s pain,
situations and feelings.
Empathy is the core of compassion.
Empathy means we care about others, that we have concern for their welfare and well-being.
Habitually happy people characteristically exhibit abundant love and empathy. They genuinely care about people and the world around them. Love truly does propel happiness.
The More We Love, The Greater Our Happiness. Where there is no love, there is no happiness.
The empty, apathetic angst that characterizes the affluent and arrogant amplifies this truth.
People who place themselves above and apart from the rest of the world rarely experience the love, happiness or joy that flows so easily to people who eagerly embrace the entire world.
Evil people may love, but their love is limited and conditional.
The Best Way To Prosper Is To Help Others Prosper.
The Best Way To Be Loved Is To Love.
The Best Way To Be Happy Is To
Delight In Helping Others To Be Happy,
Especially Those Who Are Less Fortunate Than You!
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Forgiveness Means Not Letting
Past Pain Determine Present
Or Future Actions
Forgiveness Offers Freedom –
Freedom From Pain
Freedom of Thought And Action
Forgiveness Does NOT Mean Forget,
Stuffing Our Feelings Or
Letting Others Hurt Us Again
Forgiveness Does NOT Mean Failing To Fight For What Is Right And Good
Holding On To Resentments And Grievances IS A Decision To Suffer And Make Others Suffer
Resentments and revenge ruin and run present and future moments. Resentment allows past pain to control us, our feelings and actions. That’s not the way to happiness and spiritual success.
Happy people don’t hold on to misery. They resolve to learn from bad experiences, gain from their pain and move forward. Unnecessary suffering is masochistic, inflicting pain on others sadistic.
Forgiveness does not mean “Door Mat.” People who don’t fight for their rights and freedom loose them!
None of the great religious or spiritual leaders in history were wimps. They all took strong stands and fought for their beliefs. Habitually Happy people are NOT Wimps. They do refuse to be controlled by past pain. They resolve to let pain go quickly.
They make good decisions based on accurate assessments of reality, worthwhile goals and positive intentions.
Forgiveness Means Not Letting Past Pain Control Present And Future Actions. It Offers Freedom From Pain And Angry Decisions. Forgiveness Does NOT Mean Forget. It Does NOT Mean Failing To Fight For What Is Right!
See Happiness Habit for more happiness insights and wisdom.
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Some people enjoy being mean. Evil people enjoy causing hurt and harm, it gives them a sense of power, control and superiority.
They may hide your keys, snicker while you search for them and blame you for not being better organized. Benign? It costs you time and emotional well-being.
Empowered, evil tyrants like Hitler, Stalin and Pol Pot kill millions of people without regret.
They have no consciences, no guilt, no remorse or empathy, no care about right or wrong. They do whatever they please, their only concern is getting caught or being stopped.
Law enforcement and medical professionals call them psychopaths, sociopaths, antisocial. They are at least 4% of our population.
They are often very articulate, charming, attractive and likable. This makes them very dangerous. They look and act normal but they have no morals, no concern for anyone but themselves.
They are adept at hiding their true feelings and evil intentions. They are criminals, con artists, psychopathic ceos, corporate bullys, petty tyrants.
Good people don’t believe people can be so evil and do such evil things and still seem so normal.
This is how and why happy, healthy people are repeatedly taken in and victimized by their psychopathic manipulations and deceptions.
Evil people look like fine, upstanding citizens. Church involvement can provide convenient covers for their criminal activities.
Happy, Healthy, Successful People Beware:
Psychopaths often target the best and the brightest and try to humiliate and subjugate people who are better than they are. They love to dominate, control and destroy people who outshine or out perform them. Why People Are Targeted
Their haughty delusions of grandeur are driven by deep seated and well earned fears of inferiority.
Protection from Evil Psychopaths:
1) Recognize there are very sick, evil people who appear normal, kind, caring and considerate. They have no empathy or concern for anyone but themselves. Sociopaths are sadistic. They get pleasure from causing pain, especially to good people.
2) Power, Control and Superiority are their needs. They want to hurt you and they don’t want to be exposed. They blame you for the evil they’re doing and they want you to take responsibility for it and blame yourself as well.
3) Humiliation and Subjugation are their goals. If they can make you mad, look crazy or bad, you’ve played right into their hands.
4) Emotional Independence – Choose your mood, attitude and actions based on what’s best for you. Don’t give them control of your thoughts, actions or feelings. Don’t give them the control and dominance they crave.
5) Protect Yourself Physically and Mentally – don’t let them depress, distress or endanger you. Don’t let their evil dominate your life.
6) Shine Brightly – Strength, Genuine Goodness and Spiritual Success Are Your Best Defenses!
For more Happiness Habits see HappinessHabit.com
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What makes for happy, successful lives and relationships?
Friendship, Trust and Teamwork
There is no greater gift than to help a person achieve their goals.
Good happy relationships help people achieve their goals and their dreams!
“But we’re so different!” is a frequent concern. People who work, live or spend time together happily and successfully grow together over time. We are enriched by differences and learn from them.
Key questions to ask…
- Are our goals the same? Do we want to achieve the same things? Do we want to travel to the same destinations in five, ten and twenty years?
- Is my life truly better with them or without them?
- Are our values the same?
- Are we compatible, do we enjoy spending time together?
- Do I have FUN with this person? Do they make me laugh?
Do Your Homework Before Becoming Involved
Spend time building friendship, trust and teamwork. If you can’t do it early in a relationship, you probably won’t be able to do it later once your emotions are hooked.
There’s a big problem with allowing sexuality to drive relationships. A person who is inappropriate but sexually attractive draws us into situations that are not good for us. The relationship supplies sexual highs but none of the key components of a good, healthy, successful relationship.
Friendship, trust and teamwork carry relationships over long distances and through difficult times towards happiness, success and achieving our dreams.
Focus on Friendship, Trust and Teamwork for happy, spiritually successful relationships!
See Happiness Habit for more happiness resources.
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Why do we often embrace, expand and wallow in our emotional pain?
Emotional Pain Is A Powerful Distractor That Robs Us of Happiness and Spiritual Success.
Engaging In Unnecessary Pain is Masochistic. So why do we do it?
Emotional pain is a powerful source of negative energy that seizes and holds our attention. It’s nature’s way of saying we need to stop what we’re doing to take care of things.
Thinking About Bad Things, and Reliving Painful Scenarios Gives Us Powerful Jolts of Negative Energy. They Are Our Own Personal Horror Shows.
We are both energized and made miserable by this emotional pain. I’s a source of negative energy that brings misery.
Sources of energy are attractive to us… laughter, love, thrills, great music, exercise, elevating experiences, sexual attractions, triumphs and achievement. Emotional pain that gives us jolts of negative energy is also attractive, but in a misery making way.
Remembering and Reliving Misery, Reinforces Our Misery. Reliving distressing situations becomes our own personal horror shows. They gives us jolts of energy with a large negative toll.
Recognize it for what it is, a jolt of negative energy from a bad source. Ask yourself,
“Is this positive or productive?”
“Is this helping me in some way?”
“Is this the best use of my time and attention?”
If not, detach and decisively resolve to NOT to give it a moment more of your time, attention or well-being. Painful thoughts are robbing you of pleasant present opportunities for no reason.
Detach and Distract Yourself from Destructive Misery, Distress and Despair.
Resolve to Direct Your Attention to Positive, Pleasant Solutions, Opportunities and Activities.
See Happiness Habit for more happiness resources.
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Habitually Happy people are amazingly altruistic. They rarely pass up a chance to be kind when it costs them little or risks them little.
Practicing Continual Kindness Is A Way To Be Happy.
They are also very adept at protecting themselves, pursuing and achieving their goals. They are not “people pleasers,” they do good because it makes them feel good.
It’s an example of the First Law of Happy Thought:
Our Focus Determines Our Feelings.
When We Focus Our Time, Attention and Energy On Doing Good We Feel Good. More importantly…
We can’t expect others to treat us well if we don’t extend the same care, concern and compassion we want from them to them.
I recently heard a noted economist speak on the subject of giving at a church stewardship dinner. He relayed recent studies linking charitable giving to happiness, but missed a few key points:
Altruism Is Attractive – We tend to like and trust altruistic people because we believe they place goodness, right action and the welfare of others on an equal plane with their own concerns.
It’s hard to like or trust selfish people who don’t show integrity.
Make Goodness A Guiding Goal – Doing good makes us feel good. Giving appropriately makes us feel good because we know we are contributing to worthwhile causes. And the flip side is…
When we don’t feel good about our actions, we can’t truly enjoy the rewards those actions bring. Try the Gold Fish Test – if the world knew the details of your actions, how would you and they feel? Worry isn’t worth it, secrets cause stress.
Love Not Logic Prompts Giving – People need clear, compelling visions of the benefits their gifts provide and a love for the cause in order to support them enthusiastically.
It’s a twist on the old sales adage, “Logic makes people think, emotions make them act.” Build benefits and love before asking for expanded contributions.
There’s an important difference between really wanting to do something and feeling we must, ought or have to do it.
Love Propels Happiness And Giving – Demonstrate how to feel good, proud and joyful about giving. Drive giving with desire.
Acquire The Qualities You Admire In Others – Seek good role models and visions of excellence which help to define the steps to achieve them.
Truly happy, successful people are usually very kind, caring, honest, charitable and compassionate.
Look Like and Live Like the Leaders You Admire. You’ll find they usually give very generously.
Action, Activity and Achievement Are Keys To Happiness. Doing Good Makes Us Feel Good.
Explore HappinessHabit.com for more happiness insights.
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Many people who truly love their work never want to retire. Then time or mandatory retirement catches up with them and they have no choice.
People who dislike their work can’t wait until the magic time comes.
The question everyone faces is… Then what?
Is a life of leisure all it’s cracked up to be?
What’s the secret to a happy retirement?
If you’re retired and NOT happy, try this…
Find something that makes you mad as hell and go fix it. Or decide to fix a small part of it you can influence and improve. Find something meaningful and worthwhile to devote your life to and work at it diligently.
Find ways to make the world or part of it a better place.
Personal purpose and productivity are important keys to happiness.
A retired banking acquaintance who maintains two large homes and has traveled widely recently quipped,
“Retirement is not all it’s cracked up to be.” He’s a cynic who describes himself as “skeptical” and likes to poke fun at my happiness endeavors.
“Travel?” I asked.
“Be there, done that,” he replied. “We’ve been every where we want to go and there’s no where we want to go back.”
“Passions?” I inquired.
“I don’t have any,” he answered.
“Volunteer work?”
“Did plenty of that while I was at the bank” he answered. After he walked away I realized what he probably really needed was a challenge, something to sink his teeth into.
We spend our lives building and creating businesses and professional careers. Then we walk away thinking our lives will be better when we don’t have to do anything at all. For some it is, for many it is not.
A friend who winters in Naples, Florida comments that many senior executives retire there and then die quickly in three to five years. Their minds and spirits are invigorated by the business challenges they face. Without them, they expire.
It’s as if the universe is saying, You’ve spent your life making money, now it’s time to give back or you may die quickly.
Find a challenge you can sink your teeth into. Make the world a better place. Find something that makes you mad as hell and go fix it. It’s a great way to feel happy, productive and enjoy a long retirement.
See HappinessHabit.com for more happiness insights and resources.
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Defend Your Happiness – Your good mood, your spiritual freedom and your turf against people, events and things that might take them away!
http://FightwithFinesse.com explores the Fine Art of Cheerful Corporate Combat.
Continually Radiate Confident, Relaxed, Energized Well-being.
Smile As You Speak. Speak slowly, project your words powerfully and purposefully. Talk to the back of the room. Push back with positive personality. Adopt an aura of amused, attractive assertiveness.
Emphasize Positives – Benefits, advantages and rewards of your position and suggestions. Avoid personal attacks, criticism and character assassination.
Don’t Disagree, Argue or Say, “No!” State contrary positions in clear, concise, positive, compelling terms. Emphasize and expand the benefits and rewards of your position and the dangers of doing things differently.
Base Your Position on Good Goals and High Ideals EVERYONE Can Embrace and Few Can Fault.
Don’t React Emotionally – Hold on to your personal power. Reacting to an adversary’s attacks gives them control over your actions and feelings. Chart your own course, don’t give them control.
Hook Attention with Abundant Positive Energy – Agree and direct the discussion your way. Positive energy attracts attention and makes people want to listen.
Don’t Look to your Audience for Approval. Seeking approval gives adversaries power and control over your feelings.
Remember Rebellion and Revolt Fuel Happiness – Revolt and rebel against anyone and anything that tries to control you, drag you down or depress your positive spirits. Don’t give adversaries control of your thoughts or feelings.
Continually Radiate Confidence and Relaxed, Energized Well-being. Try to touch everyone you meet with a positive spirit.
For more happiness habits see HappinessHabit.com
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Work Is A Series of Steps To
Success, Achievement
And Satisfaction
The word “work” conveys wonderful feelings and images…
A “work of art” describing special beauty, or…
“life’s work,” the pride and satisfaction we gain from personal and professional achievements.
Work is wonderful.
For other people, “work” means misery, difficulty and pain.
Anything associated with “work” must be avoided at all cost.
“Work” is by nature unattractive, burdensome and distasteful.
“Work” deprives us of fun and enjoyment.
Habitually Happy people enjoy very different perspectives. They view “Work” as steps to success and achievement. They love to achieve and succeed so they always try to enjoy their work.
Habitually happy people decide what they are going to do and then they decide to find ways to enjoy it. The best way to excel and do well at anything is to cultivate a love for what you do.
They know viewing something they have to do as dreary, difficult or distasteful allows bad attitudes to work against them. They align their attitudes to support their goals, ambitions and decisions.
Even dull, repetitive work feeds families and allows people to pursue hobbies and higher goals. Take pride in doing simple things extraordinarily well.
View Work As Steps To Success And Achieving Your Goals. Relish and enjoy each step and you will never toil again.
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How much time do you spend Criticizing in relation to time you devote to creating Confidence, Competence, Credibility and Concern in the people you live or work with?
What is your C / C4 ratio?
Criticism is Very Counter Productive! Criticism focuses on what’s wrong, bad or deficient. It leaves people deflated and confused.
Hammering On Wrongs Does NOT Communicate What Is Right, good, successful or appropriate! Criticism hurts people and gives them no hint as to what they should do to improve.
Think instead about what you can do to Create the Four C’s…
Confidence – People must feel good about themselves and their abilities to succeed and perform well.
Competence – We must know what excellence is in order to achieve it.
Credibility – People must think your words and insights can help them.
Concern – We must honestly care in order to listen, absorb and apply your message. If we don’t care, your communication is lost completely.
We all need to be able to recognize and rigorously reject wrongs in order to succeed and do well. This requires no more than 10% of our time.
Focus on Rehearsing, Reinforcing and Rewarding Rights… good, upright actions, activities and responses.
See HappinessHabit.com for more happiness insights.
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In the few moments it take a couple of deep, relaxing breaths you can anchor, focus and then send your spirits soaring with delight.
See yourself on a beautiful beach, hear the sound of waves breaking, smell the salt air.
Relax, wiggle your toes, feel sand beneath your feet, balance your body effortlessly upright.
Take a couple of deep, Breaking Wave Breaths™ to the sound of the breaking waves.
See yourself smiling and laughing in your mind’s eye. Feel those feelings, take them on for yourself.
Feel light, relaxed, flexible, fluid, free to soar through the air.
Fill your heart and mind with happiness and delight and send
your spirit soaring with the sea gulls.
See HappinessHabit.com for more happiness insights.
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“The highest and greatest of the human freedoms is to choose your attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
~ Viktor Frankl, “Man’s Search for Meaning”
The concept of Spiritual Freedom grew from Viktor Frankl’s incredible accounts of how some men triumphed emotionally and spiritually over the most horrific circumstances, Auschwitz.
“Man can preserve a vestige of spiritual freedom, of independence of mind, even in such terrible conditions of psychic and physical distress.”
Each inmate ultimately chose whether to succumb to prison camp mentality and become a mere product of their environment and experience or to try to triumph spiritually and be something more, better and different.
“Fundamentally, therefore, any man can, even under such circumstances, decide what shall become of him – mentally and spiritually. He may retain his human dignity even in a concentration camp.”
Frankl describes how some men went about comforting and aiding their fellow prisoners while others succumbed to the most selfish, basest motivations and desires.
Frankl illustrates a key aspect of the Happiness Habit :
“If we don’t consciously decide what sort of person we want to be and then work to become that person, our environment and our experience determine both our identity and our destiny for us.”
Beyond the barbed wires in life, there is always a wide expanse of opportunity, spiritual freedom and emotional independence that frees us from being dominated and controlled by our circumstances.
We can decide what sort of person we want to be and work to become that person. We can decide to practice being our best selves all of the time and and continually try to do our best, feel our best and be our best all of the time. Our best will continue to get even better.
A key to happiness and spiritual success is to always look past the barbed wire!
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The Clergy 
are the happiest and most satisfied with their jobs according to the National Opinion Research Center at the University of Chicago. Physical therapists and firefighters ranked second and third in overall job satisfaction. Interestingly, these jobs are generally lower paying professions.
Doctors and lawyers who are significantly more affluent report much lower levels of job satisfaction. The least satisfied professions were roofers and waiters, people who work primarily for money because their jobs are seen as having fewer intrinsic rewards.
These survey results reaffirm Happiness Habit’s First Law of Happy Thought: Our Focus Determines Our Feelings
When we devote our time and energy to doing things we find meaningful and rewarding, we feel good. Devoting our lives to altruism and helping others is often the best, most reliable route to true happiness.
Clergy face many difficult stresses daily, dealing with death, demanding church members and dysfunctional subcultures. Their lives are certainly not easy or stress free. The noble calling of their profession, their dedication to goodness and helping others triumphs dramatically over all these disadvantages.
Roofers and waiters who report low job satisfaction can reposition their perspectives to emphasize the value and beauty in what they do.
Everyone can take pride in executing even simple, repetitive jobs extraordinarily well. Linking job satisfaction to the benefits your work provides, keeping a home dry or creating a beautiful dining experience can send your spirits soaring. You no longer work just for money but for the good you do for others.
Doctors and lawyers who adopt similar perspectives achieve far greater satisfaction from their work. When they just focus on their stresses and their problems, they are miserable. Redirecting their attention to the good they provide patients, clients and society changes the complexion of their work dramatically.
Professions characterized by chronically combative, competitive cultures value winning, power and superiority above all else. Even people who are highly successful in these cultures are rarely as happy or long lived as those who choose to devote their talents to altruism and helping others.
Goodness truly does bring its own wonderful rewards!
See HappinessHabit.com for more happiness insights.
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The Happiness Institute in Australia reminded us how very culturally dependent measures of happiness can be.
Today they cite a study in the United Kingdom that reports hairdressers are the happiest profession.
We don’t know where hair dressing ranks in University of Chicago’s study, nor do we know where the clergy rank in happiness and job satisfaction in Great Britain.
It’s important to appreciate how very subjective and culturally dependent happiness and job satisfaction studies can be.
Are similar questions being asked in the same way to similar groups of people? Do the questions and answers mean the same things?
The United States and Great Britain are very similar in many ways, we would expect surveys of happiness and job satisfaction to be alike too.
Just as we were surprised to see tomatoes regularly served for breakfast on our first trip to Great Britain, we should expect surprises in happiness and job satisfaction rankings between countries and cultures as well.
See HappinessHabit.com for more happiness insights.
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Here’s a typical abstract of recent happiness studies from Scientific American:
We tend to adapt, quickly returning to our usual level of happiness. The classic example of such “hedonic adaptation” comes from a 1970s study of lottery winners, who a year after their windfall ended up no happier than non winners. Hedonic adaptation helps to explain why even changes in major life circumstances – such as income, marriage, physical health and where we live – do so little to boost our overall happiness.
Not only that, but studies of twins and adoptees have shown that a determined from birth. This “genetic set point” alone makes the happiness glass look half empty, because any upward swing in happiness seems doomed to fall back to near your baseline.
How Depressing! Academic research proves even unexpected abundant wealth does not bring lasting happiness and our happiness is a prisoner function of our genes!
What are we meant to do if we want to be happier and live happy, spiritually successful lives? Take drugs? See a psychotherapist? The psychologists at these major research institutions leave us hanging without solutions, suggestions or resolutions.
They don’t want you to know there are simple, enduring, universal truths that lead to happiness and a happy life!
Another synopsis from the “father of Flow” Mihály Csíkszentmihályi one of the world’s leading researchers in positive psychology suggests we: 1) Be attuned to what gives us satisfaction; 2) Study ourselves; and 3) Take control. It’s hardly a complete recipe for happiness!
Most happiness research is conducted by psychology departments at major universities who have huge investments in treating problems and disease. The emergence of simple, teachable Happiness Truths would undermine these psychologists professed preeminence, prestige, power and economic well-being. Expect academic research to biased towards Daniel Gilbert’s “Stumbling on Happiness” thesis that most people don’t know what makes them happy.
Pharmaceutical firms are major advertisers. Over eleven million prescriptions for psycho active mood elevators are written annually in the United States alone. Is the media willing to cover options that could jeopardize this revenue?
There are universal, enduring, eternal truths that lead to happy, spiritually successful lives. We call these happiness habits…
“Be Guided By Goodness • Fuel Your Life With Fun • Passion Is Empty Without Compassion • Profit From Your Mistakes • Beating Yourself Up Reinforces Errors You Want To Avoid • Drive Discipline With Desire • Make Decisions Not Judgments • Schedule Your Time Not Your Tasks • Be Driven By Desire NOT Duress • See Obstacles NOT Problems • Focus On How You Want To Feel • Touch Each Person You Meet With A Positive Spirit • Love Propels Happiness ”
Don’t expect them to be covered by television, magazine or major media enterprises that rely on advertising for their revenue.
See HappinessHabit.com for more happiness insights.
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It’s official, recent scientific research shows bacteria commonly found in dirt, bacterium Mycobacterium vaccae, can lift levels of serotonin in the brain, brightening our moods and contributing to our happiness.
At last, scientific proof of what gardeners have known since the beginning of time, digging in the dirt is enjoyable, satisfying and good for our happiness!
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We are always amazed and delighted by how truly and consistently nice genuinely happy people are. This was one of the biggest surprises from our interviews and studies of habitually happy people. Happiness and niceness invariably are linked together.
By nice, we don’t mean door mat, subservient, submissive or excessively concerned about other people’s opinions. Habitually happy people were anything but that! They all tended to be very independent, somewhat outspoken and in many ways, adventurous.
By niceness we mean genuinely caring and being concerned about other people and the people around you. Passion propels happiness. Passion without caring and consideration for others is empty and self serving. Caring for others helps create compassion.
Many thanks to the Happiness Institute for today’s posting from Eastern Progress that reminds us how niceness contributes to happiness. Helpful messages often come when we need them the most! 😉
We know people who are nice but who are not especially happy, niceness by itself does not ensure happiness. We never encountered anyone who was genuinely and consistently happy who was not nice. Sociopaths may fall into this category, their happiness is delusional.
Focusing our time and attention on doing good things well helps ensures happiness. Niceness, care and concern for others as well as ourselves is part of living well.
On a very different tone, ever wonder Why Having More No Longer Makes Us Happy? See an excellent article on the over emphasis of continued economic growth in AlterNet but be warned, it’s serious stuff! That’s why they call economics the dismal science.
See HappinessHabit.com for more insights on happy living.
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Are God and Jesus Christ are the only true sources of happiness?
“Sometimes, the person who has everything he could desire is still not happy; meanwhile someone deprived of everything, even freedom or health, can be joyful and peaceful, if God is within his heart. ”
~ Pope Benedict XVI
We both agree and disagree!
Certainly many church teachings are central and crucial to living a happy, spiritually successful life. Compassion, goodness, honesty, virtue and truth are the basis of a happy life.
We also know many very religious people who are not especially happy. Some of the most horrendous crimes in history were committed with a false sense of religious righteousness.
Some of the happiness people in the world are Buddhists who do not have a concept of God that is central to our Judaeo Christian creed. Buddhists do have compelling teachings about compassion, care and concern for others that are central to their beliefs.
It is these values, we believe, that bring Buddhists happiness. The ancient Greeks agreed, “A man who is not virtuous will never be happy.” ~ Epicurus
Herb Benham jokes about a recent study in the Archives of Internal Medicine reporting that fat men are less likely to commit suicide than thin men!? One wonders if worry is keeping people thin and unhappy.
Taking pride in feeling good and looking good is important source of happiness! We don’t believe habitually over eating is a healthy, enduring source of joy.
What do you think? Post your comments below!
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Should Happiness Be Pursued? Or does happiness flow best and naturally just from a life well lived?
See Happiness Without Pursuit
Mark Teeter 3/17/07 St. Petersburg Times
One of my grandfathers pursued happiness and the other did not. The first tried a dozen disparate jobs but found only modest success and fleeting satisfaction.
The non-pursuer — a rare combination of journalist, historian and Methodist minister — did all three for their own sake and that of others, and did them very well. When he died, Time magazine titled his obituary “A Happy Man.”
It’s a wonderful article and analysis of happiness in Russia!
See HappinessHabit.com for more insights about how to live a happy life.
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India is studying happiness in an effort to bring happiness studies into schools. Certainly being absorbed in productive, creative activities can be very rewarding.
A wonderful article from Thailand Times linking flow states to happiness disappeared from their site. Creative flow states as described by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi are often linked to happiness.We don’t disagree that creative flow states can be a source of happiness. It is easy to get lost in the flow> and loose site of what you have to do and what you really want to achieve.
We found habitually happy people were generally very time conscious, they tended to schedule their time not their tasks. Time was generally their limiting resource.
Being concerned about time protected them from getting lost in the flow and loosing site of what they really want to achieve.
The Mercury News reports Clairmont College in California is initiating a doctoral program in Happiness. They will research “What makes people happy?”
We wonder, why not ask, “How can people make themselves happy?” Isn’t our goal to be happy and find ways to live a happier, more spiritually successful life?
We agree with Will Wilkinson’s Happiness & Public Policy Blog about happiness research. Today’s posting is, as always, very sophisticated and complete. He refers to research on aging and happiness, which was also recently reported in Slate.
Science Blogs reported research on the decline in happiness during the 20th Century. Reading it did not make me happy!
See HappinessHabit.com for more information.
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Happiness Blog is moving, expanding and will include current happiness articles of interest.
See HappinessHabit.com for a listing of Happiness Habits.
We’ll continue to respond to reader’s comments and what we read, like this for example:
“Every day may not be good, but there’s something good in every day.” was posted by the Happiness Institute today…
“A negative judgment is the force behind all fears, anxieties and worries!”
Why say any day “May not be good?” When you start off that way, your negative projections can become a self fulfilling prophecy! Why not say, “How can I make the best of this day and every day?”
The International Herald Tribune writes Darrin McMahon author of “Happiness: A History” still has problems defining Happiness, so does Hootiepalooza who writes.. Wikipedia defines happiness As an effective state?!!!
Why not try our Happiness Habit definition… ”
A happy life is generally…
Pleasant & Pleasing,
Purposeful & Productive,
Prosperous & Spiritually Successful!”
“Happiness is the energized, elevated emotion we experience when we enjoy, appreciate or achieve a worthwhile goal.”
Deciding what happiness means to us helps us decide what steps we can take to attain it. For more insights see our Happiness Habit resources.
Tell us if you like our new approach. It may be a bit redundant at times, but repeating key concepts helps them to be reinforced and retained. That’s the way to build happiness!
See HappinessHabit.com for more happiness resources.
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Doug Manning shares a wonderful insight into happiness in his posting today titled Denominator of Happiness at ProactiveLiving.BlogSpot.com –
He says developing your Denominator is the key to happiness…
“The denominator is the real secret to developing an enduring sense of happiness and fulfillment. You focus on defining and developing your whole self. What are your interests? What do you value? What are your passions? What is your unique style? Where in the world can you be who you are?”
“These are the questions that give shape to defining a quality life. In the denominator world, quality is better than quantity, every denominator is unique, and the quickest way to get everything you want is to want exactly what you have.”
What a great approach! So much depends upon perceptions. People with much materially can still feel poor, especially if they are over extended financially. Other people who seem to have comparatively little can feel very rich and appreciative of all they do have.
We found the biggest barrier to happiness is the Fault Finding Feel Goods, all those terribly temping tendencies to judge, criticize and blame. A great happiness habit is to avoid all unnecessary, non-productive negativity. If the negativity doesn’t help you or protect you in some way, reject it.
If the negativity does actually help you, turn it into a series of positive action items to help you build your happiness and success. Hope this helps!
See HappinessHabit.com for more happiness insights.
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Do you feel frustrated by reading about recent Happiness Research at major universities?
Are you looking for ways to be happier and find this research offers no clues as to what to do? You are not alone, we all face the same quandary. Here’s why…
Academic / scientific research usually involves qualities that are measurable and verifiable so the studies can be repeated with the same results. That’s why we have all the emphasis on measuring subjective happiness, relative indexes and comparative results.
Researchers must rely on qualities that can be measured so their studies can be repeated and yield similar results so they can be considered valid.
Measuring happiness does not describe how to attain it! They are two very different goals, processes and functions.
Many philosophers, psychiatrists and great thinkers throughout time have written that comparisons and analysis of Happiness actually defeats happiness. We agree. Why stop being happy to try to measure our happiness? What difference do these measurements make? Do they help you to be happier?
Once you measure relative happiness, what good does it do you?
If we want to be happy or happier, we need to focus on developing the skills, habits and strategies that lead to happy lives. There are simple, universal, eternal truths to living a happy, spiritually successful life. If we practice them we will be happier.
See HappinessHabit.com for more Happiness Habits!
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Habitually happy people have a clear idea of the sort of person they want to be and become. They want to define how they go through life and they choose their moods and attitudes very carefully. They refuse to let bad things get them down for long. A spirit of revolt and rebellion helps fuel their happiness.
“Life is too short, we need to try to enjoy every minute of it as best we can,” one commented.
Certainly, dramatically changing life circumstances can alter your long term happiness if you allow it. See today’s posting from Michigan State
Habitually happy people seem to creatively find ways to enjoy life no matter what happens to them. They don’t let bad breaks define a bad mood for long. They find ways of triumphing over difficulties spiritually and emotionally.
See HappinessHabit.com for more happiness insights.
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Yes, happy people are healthier too! Tonight NBC featured studies showing that happy people are more resistant to cold and flu viruses and lead longer lives than their less happy counterparts.
Ten Years Longer Life..
A well known study of Catholic nuns revealed that nuns who consistently wrote positive journals lived up to 10 years longer than those whose journals tended toward negative.
“If we hope, we cope. If we don’t, we mope,” one charmingly energetic 96 year old nun commented on screen. What’s the reason?
Happiness is a protector against stress.
Stress stimulates the release of cortisol, a hormone correlated with higher risks of heart disease.
Happiness counters stress, when we’re happy, we’re less stressed.
A related feature reported that more than 11 million prescriptions are written annually for anti depressant medications like Prozac and Zolof in the United States. If we chemically treat erectile dysfunction and baldness, why not bad moods?
See HappinessHabit.com for more happiness insights.
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Fans of the Happiness Habit are talking about What NBC Didn’t Say About Happiness watch the video and read the articles.
They didn’t mention any of the enduring, universal time tested truths for living a happy, spiritually successful life…
Be Guided By Goodness, Fuel Your Life With Fun, Your Aim Determines Your Achievements, Avoid The Fault Finding Feel Goods, Focus On How You Want To Feel, Drive Discipline With Desire, Live According To Your Aspirations Not Your Inclinations, Touch People With A Positive Spirit, Live By Only The Highest And Best Values, Be Driven By Desire Not Duress, Love Propels Happiness!
NBC focused exclusively on external environmental factors that bring happiness citing positive relationships, work place appreciation and Laughter Classes. What do you do if you don’t have these things?
They close by saying, “the key is finding things that make you happy and keep you that way!” This means you are supposed to search for external things rather than build internal skills to be happy. Great for an advertiser based business!
Fans of the Happiness Habit know why Get Going With A Giggle is so helpful. Laugher loosens tight tummy muscles, helps you breathe easily from the bottom of your belly and stimulates serotonin, the brain’s natural happiness hormone.
NBC’s Happiness Test titled “Are You Satisfied With Your Life?” asks viewers to judge how ideal their lives are. Judgment generally quells happiness.
If you’re not satisfied, what do you do? Why not offer suggestions and insights that help people be happier?
In my city NBC’s Happiness segment was sandwiched between Fosamax and Aleve commercials. Drug companies are big network advertisers. The happiness experts shown come from Psychology departments at major universities that are dedicated to treating disease.
Is there any wonder NBC didn’t share any of the true, simple secrets to happiness?
The Happiness Habit pages in HappinenssHabit.com describe how to live a happy, spiritually successful life. Virtue is the basis for all happiness. Make Happiness YOUR Habit!
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Defeating The Dismal Drearies During The Holidays – Holiday Happiness Habits from HappinessHabit.com
Reject Self Pity – Feeling sorry for yourself is a sure route to sadness. If you catch yourself in self pity, STOP! Redirect your attention to positive, rewarding thoughts and activities.
Negative Judgments Cause Pain – To enjoy happy holidays, stop judging. Measuring life by other people’s should’s and ought’s is always discouraging and self defeating.
Design and Create a Fun, Rewarding Holiday that fits your circumstances. Decide to have a great holiday and then make it happen.
Doing Good Helps Us To Feel Good! Spend time helping people who genuinely need and appreciate your assistance.
Avoid Rich Foods and Excess Alcohol – That lift your spirits for a few moments and then leave you feeling bloated, guilty and unhappy for hours.
Exercise Aggressively – It’s a great way to work off stress, stay in shape, feel great and see other people.
Share The Holiday Spirit – Smile, speak and greet strangers warmly. Extend a genuinely warm, holiday welcome to everyone you meet.
When we summon up a sense of joy and honestly project it, we can’t help but raise our own spirits as well. Remember the people who need our warmth the most are often those who are least able to return it.
Full Happiness Habits for the Holidays article on American Chronicle
Other Happiness Articles on American Chronicle. The Happiness Habits pages at HappinessHabit.com share more insights about how to live a happy life all year round. Make Happiness Your Holiday Habit!
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Live According To Your Aspirations Not Your Inclinations
There is always tension between what our past history and old habits incline us to do and how the person we aspire to be acts. That’s why it is so important to Live According To Your Aspirations Not Your Inclinations.
Our Aspirations include everything we want to achieve in life, the happy, spiritually successful person we Aspire to be, the happy life we want to live, what we want to give to others. People who don’t have Aspirations or desires to develop themselves and achieve something of value tend to stay stuck as they are.
Focusing on what we want to achieve and the happy, spiritually successful person we want to be allows us to change and direct our lives in new, more successful ways.
Once we See It in our mind’s eye, Desire It and make it an objective, Believe It and build our confidence, then we can Achieve It. Dwelling on what is wrong and what we don’t want wastes time and is very counterproductive.
The key to building happiness is to continually focus on what you want to achieve until it becomes habit. Practice happiness skills until they become your own new powerful happiness habits. Practice being your best self all of the time and Live According To Your Aspirations, Not Your Inclinations.
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Happiness Habit Hints For The Holidays
Do Habitually Happy People ever get lonesome, frustrated, disappointed or down like the rest of us over the holidays? The answer is yes, absolutely! But they bounce back quickly. Here are some of their Happiness Habit hints for the holidays:
Be Adventuresome And Creative – Habitually Happy People know there are usually lots of great ways to do anything, including the holidays, well. Different is often very delightful. Holding on to rigid expectations and thinking there is just one right way to do things is a major source of holiday pain. Instead, resolve to be creative and invite others along on an exciting new holiday adventure.
Flexibility Is An Important Key To Happiness – Be willing to reposition your perspectives, change your plans and even your preferences to cast off difficulties so you can honestly embrace good will. Resolve that no matter what happens, you are going to have a great time and help others do so too.
Self Pity Is A Sure Route To Sadness – Feeling sorry for yourself is always self defeating. Don’t do it! The Poor Me’s manufacture self made misery. Focus on anything and everything else but yourself. Spend time helping someone who genuinely needs your assistance. Take care of yourself and remember that excessive self concern is a major source of unhappiness.
Sometimes Strangers Offer Safety – Families and even fond friendships can turn toxic over the holidays. Involving new people changes group dynamics. So does changing the place, the time, the theme, the menu. Altering anything can help break bad ruts. Misery means we’re meant to change.
Drive Your Holidays With Delight – Resolve to have a good time all the time. Don’t let any one or any thing shake you your determination to savor and enjoy each moment as much as you can. Don’t hand control of your holiday happiness over to anything that threatens to drag down your spirits.
Negative Judgments Cause Pain – In fact, most of our emotional pain is caused by our negative judgments. To enjoy happy holidays, stop judging. Measuring life by should’s and ought’s brings sadness. Envision the holiday you want to create and let judgment keep you on track to achieve that goal.
Give Without Strings Attached – Decide what you want to do because YOU want to do it out of genuine goodness. Let goodness be your guiding goal and your sole reward. Don’t give with strings attached in order to get. If the returns don’t come back, you will be disappointed.
Assess Reality Accurately And Don’t Get Carried Away – It’s easy to swept up with exuberant holiday joy. Over extending yourself, incurring big bills, losing sleep, forgoing wise diet and drink choices is not the path to peace or happiness. Excess in anything invariably brings pain, not joy.
Guard Your Personal Time Carefully – Holidays are times of giving, but preserve some precious personal time for yourself. Normal schedules are often discarded, it’s easy to be on the run all the time. Stop to enjoy time with yourself. Habitually Happy People seem gregarious, but they often say they need plenty of time for themselves. Preserving personal time is often the best investment you can make for holiday happiness.
Share The Spirit – Smile, greet and speak to strangers. Extend a warm, holiday welcome to everyone you meet. When we summon up a sense of joy and honestly project it, we can’t help but raise our own spirits, and we might just brighten someone else’s holiday as well.
Share your favorite holiday Happiness Hints – Post them in a comment below.
Happy Holidays To You All!
Michele Moore & The Happiness Habit Team
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“You Can’t Lie, Cheat or Steal Your Way To Happiness!”
Habitually Happy people are high achievers, they believe in trying to be their best and doing their best all of the time. They are goal oriented, but there are lines they definitely will not cross.
“When I do my best I can let go of the results knowing I can do no more,” one said.
“You cannot lie, cheat or steal your way to happiness,” another commented. “You can lie, cheat and steal your way to riches, power and position. We all know people who do, but none of them seem to be truly happy.”
That’s true, they know they are not doing their best and they are not proud of their actions. They also don’t want to be found out. They often feel empty or like fakes or frauds.
For some people money is all important. The more they value it, the less happy they seem to be. And there are lots of people who have money but no happiness.
For others power is the primal drive. Power and control over others distorts relationships and keeps the honesty and love that propels true happiness from ever flowering.
Think of people with lots of money and power who have lost touch with reality precisely because of these things. A certain fading, moon walking rock star comes immediately to mind.
“I have never been able to conceive how any rational being could propose happiness to himself from the exercise of power over others.” Thomas Jefferson, Third President of the United States (1743-1826)
Jefferson was a man with money and power who realized the emptiness of both.
Can you be happy with lots of money, power and fame? Absolutely! But not if you make them your major concern.
The people who are happiest have made happiness their primary aim and goodness their guiding goal.
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Bouncing Back To Happiness
Bad things happen, inequities occur… often completely outside of our control. But even if we did help bring it on ourselves, the steps for Bouncing Back to happiness are still the same.
We don’t Bounce Back to feeling better by blaming, beating ourselves up or by focusing on the problem! Beating ourselves up just reinforces mistakes we are trying to avoid.
We Bounce Back by embracing our goals, our Best Selves and by focusing on what we want to achieve.
We build our skills and our well-being by identifying, implementing and celebrating successful solutions. We improve by rehearsing and reinforcing what’s right, not by Wallowing in Wrongs.
Habitually Happy people move from problems to solutions quickly. They are achievers who feel angst and anger over errors acutely, but they channel those emotions toward rectifying errors and finding superior resolutions. They don’t drain their drive to achieve or waste time tearing themselves down.
See errors and inequities as invitations for growth, change and leadership. Every error we make can strengthen us, making us stronger and wiser.
Sometimes our strength is needed to resolve inequities for others. When this happens, answer the call. Happiness comes from action and activity, from achievement and accomplishment.
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Happiness and God
Is God central and necessary to happiness? The answer is both Absolutely and Not Necessarily…
Some of the happiest people in the world are Buddhists whose religious teachings do not recognize an all powerful God like the Judaeo-Christian and Muslim traditions. Buddhist spiritual teachings do strongly emphasize the actions and attitudes that lead to a happy, rewarding, joy-filled life.
In fact ALL major religions are founded on the same fundamentals that are central to happiness… Caring, compassion, creating a loving community, altruism, goodness, sharing, tolerance and release from anger and greed. Problems arise when religious righteousness becomes a bludgeon rather than a blessing.
Happiness and Love are Healing.
Living and worshiping within a happy, affirming spiritual community helps build and strengthen the skills and love that propels happiness. Helps, but it’s not absolutely necessary. Some of the habitually happy people we interviewed said they were atheists or agnostics.
The Happiness Habit is all inclusive, embracing and accepting all major religious traditions, yet resting on and requiring none.
Existing religious and spiritual communities already do a superior job sharing their theology, we leave that work to them. We focus on strictly skills and strategies that lead to a happy, fulfilling, successful life and leave religious teaching to others.
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Happiness And Work
Happiness comes from a job well done, from knowing we’ve accomplished something of value in a positive and joyous way. Even repetitive, mundane tasks can be made beautiful by the spirit in which we address them. Joy in all we do is something we can choose to cultivate.
The best way to do anything well is to cultivate a love for it.
It makes no sense to place our attitudes in conflict with actions we must take to achieve our goals. That’s a sign we need to change what we’re doing, change how we feel about it, or both.
Excellence is a function of the attention, care and concern we give to what we do. Mediocre results from mediocre efforts bring little joy or satisfaction. We can choose to excel and do well through the attention, care and concern we extend to our work.
Happiness can come from doing an ordinary job extraordinarily well and taking pride in our achievements. Happiness comes from achieving something we value and celebrating our success.
Happiness comes from the joyous spirit of attention, care and concern we can choose to address our work.
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Rapid Rebound – The Resilience Response
Want to speed your rebound from life’s disappointments and difficulties? Imagine how you will think, act and feel when you have put the difficulty behind you. Envision what it will be like once you have rebounded from the problem and try to adopt that mental perspective.
Once we have put a problem behind us, the difficulty:
– Absorbs less time and attention.
– Causes us less emotional pain.
– Our view of the problem changes.
As we reposition our perspective on the problem, our perception of the problem changes. The key is to want to adopt a less painful perspective. Think about how you’ll feel when you are “over” the problem and consciously try to acquire that state.
Resiliency is important to Happiness. Imagining a rebound mind set helps us to acquire a new view of our alternatives and opportunities.
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ESE Your Way To Happiness
Eat, Sleep and Exercise to feel happy, healthy and energized.
Eat Foods that help make you feel happy, alert and healthy. Some meals make us feel especially good for several hours, eat those foods! Body systems differ, food that gives some people a burst of energy makes others tired and sluggish. Eat what’s good for you. Avoid foods that taste good for a few minutes and leave you feeling guilty or low and slow for a long time.
Sleep is refreshment. Peak performance requires adequate rest. A small, additional investment of time in sleep can enhance efficiency and productivity for the entire day. Your best investment of time often lies in adequate rest.
Exercise – Activity increases blood flow to the brain, raises our adrenalin levels and sharpens our mental acuity. Exercising daily keeps the mind and body alert. Invest twenty minutes daily in a brisk walk for your body and private time for your mind. It’s time you spend building you happiness, health and emotional well-being.
You can’t think, act and feel your best or be at your best when you are tired, hungry, mis-fed or sluggish.
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Practice Being Your Best Self
We all experience those magical days when we are thinking, acting and feeling our very best. Our minds are alert, sharp, focused, we are able to concentrate well. An easy, relaxed powerful energy flows through our bodies. Our spirits seem to soar with joy.
Remember those days, recall those thoughts and feelings. Feel the rhythm and beat of that marvelous, positive energy flowing through your body. Connect with those and feelings and take them on for yourself. Project them and they will be yours.
You can’t step into that magic zone by concentrating on how badly you feel!
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Money Is Not Happiness
Here’s further proof that “Money Does NOT Buy Happiness” from a new study in Australia. ABC-Australia Higher income people showed less satisfaction with their lives than people in lower income brackets.
Money buys beautiful things that bring Situational Happiness. It shows superficial status and financial success. Money buys interesting, enlightening experiences, education and travel. Money buys freedom from some worries, it provides food, shelter and health insurance. It buys delightful distractions and diversions.
These are external experiences that temporarily elevate our feelings.
Habitually Happy People focus on Spiritual Success which brings Sustained Happiness. It’s fairly independent of their external environment or circumstances.
It’s easy to confuse things that make us happy temporarily with the true source of happiness, which ultimately lies within ourselves. Unhappy people will be unhappy irrespective of their wealth and resources. Habitually Happy People have decided to be happy no matter what happens around them.
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Chaos, Calm & Creativity
It’s a myth that Happiness comes with calm, complacent serenity.
Happiness flows from action, achievement, accomplishment and activity.
Our happiest moments often come at our most exuberant, creative times. Most people feel extraordinarily happy when they are in their most creative state. Creativity comes with energy, enthusiasm and excitement.
“In Italy for thirty years under the Borgias they had warfare, terror, murder, bloodshed – but they produced Michelangelo, Leonardo da Vinci and the Renaissance. In Switzerland they had brotherly love, five hundred years of democracy and what did that produce – the cuckoo clock!”
~ Orson Wells, The Third Man, 1949.
Happiness springs from creativity, energy and excitement.
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See Yourself Smiling, Successful & Happy
Stop for a moment, detach from what you’re doing. Take a few deep breaths and relax. In your mind’s eye, see yourself smiling, successful and happy. Take a moment to relish those good feelings, connect with them and make them your own. Now radiate and project those positive, happy, successful feelings.
You’ll find yourself smiling, and feeling happy and successful.
We tend to take on the feelings we consciously choose to radiate and project. Summon up a sense of joy and genuinely project it, you will feel happy.
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Focus On How You Want To Feel
Habitually Happy People know how they like to feel, they have a sort of Best Self optimal way of being and feeling. They try to be that way and feel that way most of the time.
Yes, like the rest of us, they times when they fall into the dumps or doldrums. But they catch themselves and try to stop, re energize and return to their Best Self way of being.
They’ll say, “I don’t like myself when I feel or act that way.”
They focus on how they want to feel and try to become that way. When you focus on a bad feelings they expand in your mind. Happy People focus on how they want to feel, not on what they want to cast off.
It’s a powerful technique from the Happiness Habit!
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Habitually Happy People Define Themselves
Habitually Happy People are happy because they decided to define themselves to be happy people. At some critical point in their lives, they resolved to cast off all unnecessary unhappiness, misery and negativity. They consciously decided to develop themselves to be happy people. They gradually acquired the thoughts, feelings and actions of happy people.
Many of the habitually happy people we interviewed and studied said they came from dismal, unhappy, dysfunctional family situations or backgrounds. They didn’t want to be or become just a product of their environment and experience, they wanted far more for their lives.
So they cast off past pain and misery and developed themselves into happy, successful people. It was a goal that became a sort of role for them. Gradually, over time, they adopted the positive, successful perspectives and habits that lead to a happy, successful life. They developed themselves into happy people. They decided to define who they would be and become.
The same skills and perspectives are available to all of us!
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Happiness Is Kind
Kindness is Goodness and Love in Action.
Kindness is reaching out and giving a gift of caring, compassion and concern to others. Even small, seemingly insignificant gestures can often mean a great deal to a person in need.
Habitually Happy People are extraordinarily kind. And they are also very independent. They are the ones who will break from the crowd to extend kindness to an individual in distress when everyone else is hostile or aloof. They do it because no one else is doing it and they know it needs to be done.
By extending love and kindness to others we feel love within ourselves. When we extend love to the unlovable, we become certain we are loved and lovable ourselves.
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Happiness is Guided By Goodness
“Happy People Are Never Wicked” – Dutch Proverb
We are often surprised how very happy truly good people are. Truly happy people are guided by goodness and they make goodness a goal. They continually try to do their best, feel their best and be at their best. Goodness is a central part of being their best.
Goodness allows them to live in harmony and be respected by others. Goodness allows them to act and think consistently with their highest and best values. Goodness is very powerful, goodness is eternal and universal.
Evil is always driven by some sort of self interest, sometimes twisted and covert. Evil is a departure from goodness that brings gain to some from the pain of others. Competition is not inherently evil, good competition prompts everyone to gain.
Goodness prevails because it is in the best interest of many, not just a few.
Try guiding your life with goodness, make goodness a goal. It’s a way to be happy.
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Love Propels Happiness
Happiness comes with the excited, exuberant, elated emotion we feel when we are in love with what we’re doing, the people around us, the future ahead of us. Love is exciting, delighting, empowering, uplifting. Love sends our spirits soaring.
Happy people love the world around them, their work, their future, they love everything the do. Love propels their happiness. Habitually happy people have decided to try to love all of the time.
Love is an active verb, it is something we decide to do and it’s an emotion we feel.
To live a happier life, propel your happiness with love. Decide to try to love all of the time.
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Happiness Is Rebellious!
Habitually Happy People exhibit indomitable good spirits. They refuse to let life’s difficulties get them down. They know they have to be at their best to do their best, so they try to be at their best all of the time. And they try to have a good time all of the time.
A stubborn refusal to let life’s difficulties get the better of them is an important component of their happiness. They protect their good mood. Irrepressible good cheer helps fuels their enjoyment of life.
A streak of rebelliousness fuels their desire and determination to overcome obstacles, difficulties and anything that threatens to demoralize or depress them. They want to get the most of life and enjoy life as much as they can.
Let a rebellious spirit fuel your happiness!
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Happiness Is Honest
Honesty means consistency with our concept of the truth.
Habitually Happy People have very high integrity, they live consistently with their values and beliefs. And they choose values and beliefs that are held in high esteem by others as well.
“If you feel you have have to lie, it means you need to change what you are doing, change how you’re thinking about it or both,” one once commented.
Lying means we are ashamed of the truth or fear the truth.
Habitually Happy People don’t lie. They don’t deny the truth or fear the truth. They find ways of honestly sharing the truth with the people around them while still being kind.
They are happy and they are held in high esteem by others.
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A Master in the Art of Living
